Are you falling in love? Know why falling in love too fast and too deep for a person you barely know is not such a good idea.
Falling in love too fast is a no-no. Some men and women just fall in passionate, obsessive love shortly after dating someone. It is never a good thing, considering what could happen after the said date. You could get dumped after some time and get depressed, or feel guilty for a failed relationship. How can you then keep love from consuming you? Avoid the pattern of bonding with someone and then become obsessed for him or her.
You may lose sense of perspective. It may become repetitive and eventually, lead to the destruction of the relationship. The emotions may lead to actions which may cause misunderstanding, arguments, and then the end of the relationship.
So, how can you keep love from devouring all of your thoughts and time so you can keep a good relationship?
Taking it step by step is one good way of balancing the relationship and your emotions. Also, don’t start thinking about the future too early. Don’t think how nice it will be to spend holidays with the one you are with. You should understand that other people are far more objective towards love than you.
Scheduling your time between your love life and your professional life is also a good habit. Make sure that you give time to yourself. This prevents you from spending too much time with the person you care about too fast. Love was meant to grow, not to be there all at once.
You should also control your emotions and learn to take an even attitude towards love. See the person you love as what he or she is. Never allow your mind to attach imaginative attitudes to him or her. If you feel like your losing control of this, think about things you don’t like about him or her. It can be pretty hard because the other person is almost perfect to you; you can’t find anything, but remember that it can help put your love back into place.
The person you love is just a person. He or she may also love you but may have a different attitude towards love. Don’t give in to making love too quickly. Many can walk away from it without feeling anything, and some replay what happened in their minds.
Keeping a diary is also a good way to help you from being consumed of love. Write down what happened and how you felt about it. Do read it again the next day and see if you still feel the same way. Also, think about what you want to do in the morning, and prepare to release some tension. If you continue to obsess about him or her, you may end up as an emotional ruin should the event of breaking up with your partner comes.
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